As we head into the holiday season, life can quickly fill up with to-do lists, gatherings, and endless activity. It can be hard to focus on slowing down, staying connected to God, and finding peace in the middle of all the busyness. We asked a few of our staff members to share how they stay grounded during this busy time of year.

**Danielle P.**

Something that my husband, Blake, and I have been practicing each month is a monthly Sabbath. It’s a day we set aside to disconnect from the noise, slow down, and get grounded. We use that time to rest, reflect, and reconnect — with God and with each other — before stepping back into the rhythm of everyday life.

I also really cherish my morning time – I like to do my quiet time at a coffee shop in town, so I can be focused in on the Word (plus have a cozy cup of coffee!) and not be distracted by my surroundings. 

**Meghan H.**

One way I try and slow down during the holidays is to start early. It’s a running joke that I love Christmas so much that I start celebrating in July, and I DO love the holidays (especially Christmas) but honestly the choice to start early is a deliberate one. I noticed that I was rushing through the things I loved, trying to cram everything into two weeks, and it was just stressing me out and leaving me feeling exhausted and empty.

So instead, I go slow. I decorate early so I’m not rushing to do it later. Instead of trying to do everything, I pick the things that are important to me, and focus on quality over quantity. I try and stay present in the moment; work and social life can be hectic during these weeks, so I put a lot of effort into setting aside time to be quiet, and when unexpected slow moments appear I try to lean in, instead of rushing to fill it with a to-do list. (This is easier said than done, but any amount of slowness, however small, during this season is a victory)

**Alex M.**

This might sound a bit cliché for the season, but I find that practicing gratitude helps me stay grounded and present, especially when everything around me is pulling me toward wanting and wishing for more.

**James G.**

One of my favorite traditions during the holiday season is spending time reflecting on the themes of Advent. Each week, I focus on one of the key words of the season—hope, peace, love, and joy—and intentionally pray through that theme. Throughout the week, I look for ways to experience and recognize God’s presence through that particular word. For instance, during the week of hope, I might reflect on promises fulfilled and look for moments where hope shows up in unexpected places. It’s a simple but meaningful practice that helps me stay grounded in the true spirit of the season and deepens my connection with God in a busy time of year.

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Something we do every month here at Hoboken Grace is our Monthly Rhythms, a simple yet powerful way to deepen your walk with Christ. By heading to the Rhythms section in our app, you can engage with our monthly memory verse, meditation passage, and reflective prompts designed to guide you in a day of solitude. Each month also includes communion and fasting practices that connect to the verse we’re walking through, to help build intentional spiritual rhythms that renew your heart and focus. We invite you to join us through these rhythms as a meaningful way to stay connected to God’s presence and to help intentionally schedule times throughout your day to reignite your conversation with Him.

Staying Grounded During The Holidays

If you’re new here, hi! My name is Dana, and I am the Band Director here at Hoboken Grace. I oversee our band and production teams, and you’ll often find me leading worship on Saturdays or Sundays. I’ve been in this role for over 10 years and have been serving in various capacities for years before that.

I remember early in my time at Hoboken Grace, I was serving in the band as a vocalist, while working multiple jobs in the city. I should take a moment to explain that this looked totally different than what you see now at Hoboken Grace. We had music stands, our mics had obnoxious cables attached that I tripped over, there were no fancy lights or curtains on the stage, and the lyrics were just projected onto the back wall of the stage with a projector that sat on a table on the stage. It was something! But it got the job done.

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At the time, Pastor Chris decided to take our leaders to a conference in California called Catalyst. I didn’t really know what I was getting into, but I was invited. I wasn’t totally sure why they felt I should go, I was just a singer.

At the conference, the music was amazing. I mean, it opened with a beatboxing cellist, who you may be familiar with from the now famous Pentatonix. We were led in worship by some absolute legends, including Joel Houston, Israel Houghton and Darlene Zschech. At the time I had a faint idea who these people were, but was not super familiar with this kind of worship experience. I had had some similar experiences at college but nothing at this level of excellence or production value.

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Night one, Joel was leading us through the song With Everything. Thousands of people were singing their heart out to God, and raising their hands. I remember having no problem singing loud with everyone, but for some reason I could not find the courage to lift my hands.

Why was that so ridiculously intimidating?

Let’s unpack this for a minute, and maybe this will resonate with you.

1.  **I was making it about everyone BUT God**. In that moment I was feeling tension with raising my hands because I wasn’t totally sure why I wanted to raise them. I hadn’t worshiped physically like this before so this was new. I could feel a pull in the pit of my stomach to just do it. And yet I couldn’t. I was uncomfortable because I hadn’t ventured there with God before and was more worried about what other people would think of me raising my hands than I was about what God would think about it.
2.  **I was letting the enemy mess with my head**. There’s nothing the enemy would want more than for you to be in a room full of people worshipping his arch nemesis and for you to freeze. That would mean he’s winning. And in that moment in that room, for a minute, he was fighting hard to win. He was convincing me that what was more important was for me to stay comfortable and keep my hands folded together than it was for me to let go and worship Jesus. 1 Peter 5:8 says that the enemy, “…prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” Isn’t it sad how the enemy can take such a small moment and make it so big in our heads? That small moment turned into an absolute battle for my mind and heart.

As the song went on (and it was a long one) something different started to happen. As I sat in the tension of whether to raise my hands, God began to just quietly soften my heart as I sang. With each refrain I felt more and more how very present God was with me, even in this small moment of internal struggle. And I felt how much He just wanted to spend this time WITH me. That closeness and gentleness slowly put me more and more at ease.

And then, in the darkness and loudness of that room of thousands of people, I raised my hands.

I mean, my arms were basically just bent with my hands barely at shoulder level, but they were up! Was I completely comfortable right away? No. I was totally muscling through and even hoping the song was over soon (and it wasn’t, that song is like really long when they do it live). But was I more truthfully worshipping Jesus the way He was nudging me to? Yes! I raised my hands to make it about HIM and not about me or anyone else.

If you see me on Saturday or Sunday now, you may question if I’m the same person I described in this story. My hands are up all the time. And that’s because it’s a constant reminder to me that He is in control, that He is faithful, that He is the Lord of my life in all things, and that HE is who we are singing to. Even when I don’t feel those things, raising my hands helps put God in an elevated place in my heart and life. It’s a trigger that tells the rest of me – my heart, soul and mind – that I am here to worship Him.

Next time you’re at church and you feel that nudge or that pull to do something outside your comfort zone in worship, take the leap! It can be clunky. It can be awkward. But eventually it will just be familiar, like coming home.

Not ready for that yet? I get it. Try spending time in worship on your own first. In the car. While making dinner. Maybe in the shower (I mean, the acoustics are great in there!). If you need a starting place, grab the [Hoboken Grace Playlist](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5Flm1wCBrEzo1guCwzm2n7?si=f3ac82ac66224d8a\&nd=1), find a song you resonate with and start there. Just you and Jesus. Enjoy where He leads you.


“I Throw My Hands Up In The Air Sometimes…”

This past week, our 1st Impressions team had their Friendsgiving huddle. Every huddle we like to have a theme, something that you can take away and sit with. In light of Thanksgiving coming up, Annah, our 1st Impressions Director, wanted to lean into gratitude. 

*“Brothers and sisters, we urge you to warn those who are lazy. Encourage those who are timid. Take tender care of those who are weak. Be patient with everyone.*

*See that no one pays back evil for evil, but always try to do good to each other and to all people.*

*Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:14-18 *

Gratitude is not just a feeling but a heart posture that helps us see God in every moment. Both moments that are big and moments that are small. 

Gratitude reminds us that we don't just serve by completing tasks but *we serve people*. 

The team was encouraged to approach serving with thankful hearts because when we do that, we reflect God’s love by making space for Him to flow through us. 

Annah reminded her team that we see moments of gratitude all the time on our teams - we may just not realize it!

*When the set up team sets up 400 chairs each week to allow for over 1,000 guests to have a seat on Saturday or Sunday to experience God or even putting out the signage around our building so someone can seamlessly find our building.*

*When the tear down team breaks down 400 chairs to make this space usable during the week, allowing 90 VIBE students to be able to have     worship and small groups in here!*

*When the connection points team has talked to and checked in over 650 First-Time Guests this year.*

*When hospitality has to sort through over 2,000 munchkins a week because sometimes that's someone's breakfast for that day.*

*The greeters when they take the extra second to say hi and get to know someone by name to make them feel at home.*

These are moments of gratitude in motion! We serve not out of obligation but out of overflow! 

I want to take a second for you to think about what you're grateful for - maybe in your faith, in your day-to-day life, in the service of others.

What has God done lately that maybe you haven't slowed down to thank Him for yet? 

Maybe it's something as small as having a good meal or moving your body. Maybe a moment of peace in the middle of chaos, or something as large as playing a part in someone's first encounter with Jesus! 

I encourage you to sit with these praises as we gear up for the holidays! 


1st Impressions Friendsgiving: Seeing God in Every Moment

We live in a time where we can listen to five sermons, three podcasts, and scroll through endless “faith” content before lunch — but still miss actually hearing from God. 

This past weekend, we kicked off a brand new conversation called *Consumer Christianity*, where we talked about how, in an age of endless information and constant access to content, God calls us out of storing information and into living out His Word. 

One of my favorite ways we get to live out His love is through community. It’s no secret that Monday nights at 8 p.m. let me and my girls do exactly that. Dinner Group for us is a space where we get to dig deeper and apply the weekend’s conversation, but it’s also a place to bring our questions and talk through confusion about what we’re hearing or experiencing. Some of our best discussions start when someone simply says, “I need more help understanding that!” 

That’s how our group kicked off this past Monday night. We were talking about how the overconsumption of content can actually cause more harm than good if we aren’t actively applying what we’re learning. As we worked through that, a simple but profound idea came to mind — one that might seem obvious, but for me, it was the clearest way to explain why it’s so important not just to learn *about* God, but to actually spend time *with* Him — through His Word and His presence. 

I’ll use my own dad as an example, but this could really apply to anyone. Say I wanted to know more about my father — what he enjoys, his personality, what bothers him, or the little things that bring him joy. I could call up his friends, and they could tell me stories from college or share what makes him laugh. His parents could tell me about moments that made him cry. I could look through his favorite things — his playlists, his recently watched Netflix shows — to see what helps him unwind after a long day. I could even ask my mom for all the tips and tricks on how to navigate his brain best. Or I could pull out an old photo album to see what kind of questionable hairstyles he rocked in the 80s. 

None of those are bad ways to get to know someone. They give you context, and they can absolutely help paint a fuller picture of who that person is. But when I think about the *best* way to truly know my dad’s heart, one thing stands above the rest — *him.* Sitting with my dad. Being in his presence. Observing his heart. It’s one thing to hear stories about how my dad treats people — it’s another to sit across from him at the kitchen table and see the way he listens. That’s where I really get to know who he is and what he loves. 

And that’s exactly what our Father in Heaven invites us to do. 

Think of it this way: listening to a Christian podcast is like overhearing someone else’s phone call with your dad. You can catch parts of it, and maybe even learn something, but it’s not the same as having your own conversation. 

The good news is, you can. God calls us to spend time with Him directly because that’s where we experience Him best — through prayer, through quiet moments in His presence, and through His Word, which is His voice to us. He’s given us full access to know Him personally, not just secondhand. And the best part? He *loves* that time with us. He delights in revealing who He is. 

“Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.” — *James 4:8 *

Podcasts, books, shows, and blogs are wonderful supplements. They help us hear about what God is doing and how He’s moving in others’ lives. But they were never meant to replace personal time with Him. 

So as you move forward this week, don’t just *consume* content about God. Spend time *with* God — the One who loves you most, who gave His life so that you could have yours, and who’s inviting you not just to know *about* Him, but to *know Him. *

What would it look like this week to close the app, open His Word, and let your Father speak directly to you? 


From Knowing About Him to Knowing Him

“Even now, declares the Lord, return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning” Joel 2:12

       Fasting is mentioned over 70 times throughout Scripture. There are countless stories of fasts taking place, from Moses in Old Testament times, to Paul in the New Testament, and even Jesus Himself who fasted 40 days and 40 nights in the wilderness. I remember reading about these fasts and wondering two things: 1. Was fasting just a practice meant for biblical times? 2. What exactly would fasting look like in my own walk? 

       My questions surrounding the practice of fasting left me intimidated and unsure of where to begin. However, I felt myself increasingly more convicted to step into this practice. And so I began in the only place where I knew I’d find answers apart from God Himself- my Hoboken Grace community. I reached out to the Godly women I was surrounded by and I asked them to walk alongside me during my first biblical fast. The morning of our fast, we gathered together in prayer and set intentions with God for our day. I then set off on my own to spend time with Him, doing my best to unplug from the outside world. I spent that day communing with God and dwelling in His presence through prayer, silence, worship and Scripture. We ended the day back together again, sharing our experiences with the Lord and breaking our fast with the body and blood of Christ. I have since done several fasts, each looking different than the next but here is a takeaway of what I’ve learned along the way.

1.  I was initially so caught up in fasting as a call to give up food, that I lost the reason behind the call to practice it. I think, above all else, fasting is a way to diminish the noise of this world and simply spend more time in the presence of our Lord. We deny our flesh and we place God at the forefront. We remove food and our phones and we create an environment where we are more inclined to hear the gentle whisper of God. 

2.  I surrendered the misconception that a fast had to result in a big revelation from God. I had to check my heart posture and ensure I wasn’t stepping into fasting with the intention of what I could get out of it. Of course, our God is a good and loving Father, and He always finds a way to communicate to us if we choose to listen but remember this- even if it feels like God doesn’t speak to you in a big way during your fast, know that you spent the day drawing closer to Him. And in doing that, your heart was molded regardless of if you felt the effect or not. You made the decision to put God first in everything that day and your muscle of obedience was strengthened. Don’t diminish the way God works behind the scenes. It may seem like you just spent the day hungry, doing your best to deny yourself some breakfast, but so much more was being shaped within you in the process. Simply saying no to a meal now, most likely helped contribute to a more confident no when faced with a future temptation. 

3.  Fasting in community was a game changer. God blessed us all when He built this HG community and I’m willing to bet He wishes for us to utilize it to its fullest. Lean on each other. Walk through the hard things as one. Share in each others struggles and relish in each others wins. I can’t tell you how many blessings in my life are the result of my faithful and prayerful community around me.

So I leave you with a final thought, in the words of our wise Pastor Anthony, “We are in a constant battle of flesh vs. spirit…the one we feed, is the one that will win”


What I Learned About God (and Community) Through Fasting

When Jena looks back on her journey, she sees a clear pattern—God was at work long before she realized it.

In high school and college, Jena admits that her focus wasn’t on faith. She poured her energy into grades, sports, and achievements—the things right in front of her. Her identity and sense of worth were tied to performance and success. But after graduating college and completing a two-year rotational program through her company, she landed in Hoboken and hit a low point.

“I was feeling very depressed and isolated,” she recalls. “I didn’t know anyone here at the time.”

It was during that season that a friend reached out after seeing her struggle. The friend suggested she check out a local church called Hoboken Grace. Curious, Jena searched online and stumbled upon our story videos.

“I stayed up watching so many of them that night,” she says. “I just remember sobbing in my bed. And I was like, they know something that I don't know or that I'm missing. They just had an overwhelming sense of peace and calmness. They were content in who they were. And in that point of my life, that was so foreign to me.”

That moment sparked something in her. Jena decided to take a step forward and attend Hoboken Grace. She quickly jumped into a Dinner Group—something that felt outside her comfort zone—and began to open herself to community and faith.

It was through that group that one of her friends, Diane, encouraged her to try serving in Grace Kids. Jena wasn’t so sure at first. “I remember thinking, ‘What could I possibly have to offer a bunch of fourth and fifth graders?’” But she trusted Diane and decided to say yes.

That simple yes turned into one of the greatest blessings of her life. Over seven years, Jena served in our kids' ministry and had the joy of watching many of those same kids grow from fourth graders into high schoolers. “Every Thursday at VIBE, they would run up and hug me,” she recalls. “It was the most fulfilling thing to know I had made even a small impact.”

For Jena, serving became more than volunteering—it became a way God healed and grew her faith. For a long time, Jena thought she needed to get herself together before she could serve. But she found out it’s actually the opposite. When you step in, God works through you, even in your brokenness.

Recently, one of the girls in her small group sent her a message before her move to Colorado:

“You were always there when I needed you. Your impact will last far longer than you think. Your love and support helped shape me into who I am today.”

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That message reminded Jena that the seeds she’s planted in the lives of these kids are part of something much bigger than herself. We may never see the full harvest but what we’re called to do is show up and love—because God does the rest.

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Jena’s story is a great reminder to all of us: You don’t need to be perfect and have it all together for God to use you. He meets us where we’re at. We just need to be willing to meet Him.

So if you’re wondering whether you’re ready for God to use you, maybe the better question is: Are you willing to say yes? Because that small yes could change everything.

Even in brokenness, God works through us when we simply show up.

To watch Jena’s story, click [here](https://youtu.be/QZeGrFrj76E).

To learn more about serving on VIBE, you can email <kelsey.thompson@hobokengrace.com>.


When a Simple Yes Changes Everything

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